Ten Ways to Nurture Love of God
In his usual characteristic flare, Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (d.751H/1350CE) discusses ten ways in which the seeker may cultivate a deep and abiding love of God.
Rooted in Scripture, the journey starts with love as an expression of divine obedience which, as it steadily becomes internalised, culminates in being “lost” in the love of the One being loved.
Elsewhere he says about the degrees or stages of divine love that: initially the heart shows an interest in the Beloved; it is then followed by an attachment, which steadily develops into an ardent longing. This lover’s yearning is followed by an infatuation. Finally comes tatayyum – “thraldom” or “enslavement”: this is where the Beloved now becomes the possessor of the lover, who finds no other in his heart. It all commences, though, with kindling an interest; igniting the initial spark. As for how to kindle such sparks, Ibn al-Qayyim writes:
‘The causes which give rise to love for God, and which necessitate it, are ten:
Firstly, reciting the Qur’an with reflection (tadabbur), so as to understand its meanings and its intent. Just as a person would ponder over a text he has committed to memory and now wishes to explain, so that the author’s intent is duly understood.
Secondly, drawing nearer to God by doing optional acts of devotion (nawafil), after the obligatory ones. This leads to the degree of being loved by God (mahbubiyyah), after having love for God (mahabbah).
Thirdly, constantly remembering God under all situations; with the tongue, the heart, one’s deeds and spiritual states. His share of God’s love will be commensurate with his remembrance of Him.
Fourthly, preferring God’s love over your own love when desire (hawa) overcomes you; climbing to reach His love even if the ascent is difficult.
Fifthly, the heart examining God’s Names and Attributes; so as to witness them, know them experientially, and immerse itself in the gardens of such gnosis (ma’rifah). Those who know God by His Names, Attributes and Acts will surely love Him …
Sixthly, seeing His goodness, kindness, bounties and blessings; material and spiritual. This beckons to loving Him.
Seventhly – which is the most wondrous of them: to stand before God with an utterly broken heart (incisor al-qalb bi’l-kuliyyah). There’s simply no other expression or word that can fully describe its meaning.
Eighthly, being alone with Him at the time of the Divine Descent (al-nuzul al-ilahi)1 so as to converse with Him intimately, recite His Words, be devoted to Him, and display the courtesies of servitude before Him; sealing this with seeking His forgiveness and repenting to Him.
Ninthly, sitting in the gatherings of God’s true lovers, in order to gain the best fruits of their speech – as one is want to pick choice fruits – and not to speak unless there is an overriding benefit in doing so, or if you know it will increase your spiritual state or be of benefit to others.
Tenthly, keeping at bay every means that may alienate the heart from its Lord; Mighty and Majestic is He.
With these ten causes, the lovers will arrive at the stations of love and enter upon the Beloved. The crux of all this lies in two matters: preparing the soul for this affair, and opening up the eye of spiritual insight (‘ayn al-basirah). And from God is the enabling grace.’2
1. Referring to the hadith: ‘Our Lord, blessed and exalted is He, descends every night to the lowest heaven when only the last third of the night remains, and says: Who is invoking Me that I may respond to him? Who is petitioning Me that I may grant him? And who is seeking forgiveness of Me that I may forgive Him? Thus He continues till the arrival of dawn.’ [Al-Bukhari, no.1145; Muslim, no.758].
2. Madarij al-Salikin (Riyadh: Dar Taybah, 2008), 3:449-50.
An excellent reminder and motivational
Jazakallahu khayran Sharif; may Allah grant us His love.
My sheikh often says that if we want to be happy, if we want success, if we want to be free from toil and trouble, from sorrow and grief, from pain and hurt…All we have to do is “fall in love with Allah.”
“Fall in love with Allah.” Subhanallah!
MashaAllah very beautiful and inspiring, thank you.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
Thank you too for your usual inspiring Rumi quote.
It’s also as the Arab poet said: laysa’l-sha’an an tuhibb innama’l-sha’an an tuhabb – “The affair is not so much that you love, as it is that you be loved.”
Jazakallah Khair for the post – could you elaborate on point 7? (What exactly is meant by an “utterly broken heart?”
A broken heart is a heart that knows it is sinful; disobedient; in dire need of Allah’s mercy, forgiveness, healing and help; that left to its own self, it will be in utter ruin and perdition. So with acknowledging this fact – that Allah is rich beyond need, and that we are poor and needy for Him – it turns to Allah for its healing; its fixing; its very life.
Our love of Allah should be without doubt, that we don’t complain to Allah as to how great our ‘problem’ is; but would tell our ‘problem’ how great Allah is. In this way we would be able to pass through a lot of our trails and tribulations with gratefulness and patience….InshaAllah.
Allah is indeed great. Allahu akbar! His clemency and kindness is all-encompassing. Along with this, we also remember the du’a of Israel; the venerable Prophet Jacob, upon him be peace: “I only complain of my anguish and sorrow to Allah.” [12:86]
This is really wonderful and everything is true and may Allah shower belssings on you
May Allah bathe us all in His graces, seen and unseen. Amin.